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Practical tips and steps to boost children self esteem

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Children self esteem - It goes without saying that self esteem is even more important to children as compared to adults. The reason for this is because children have not experienced many things in life. Alot of things are new and unfamiliar to them.

When dealing with unfamiliar things or environment, it is natural to feel intimidated and less confident. This is why children are more prone to experiencing low self esteem and difficulties with confidence.

Making mistakes, doing the 'wrong' things, being made fun of or not getting acceptance and love from the people around him or her - these are all common things that can affect the children's self esteem.

Those are the main contributors to low children self esteem.

Having said that, it is impossible to avoid any of the above. In life, everyone makes mistakes, everybody goes through difficulties and nobody can expect everyone else to like and accept them.

Instead, in dealing with those above items what parents can do is to instill the right values and mindset into the child so that despite any of those things happening, it will not severely affect the children's self esteem.

So what are these values and mindset? And how can these be communicated and instilled into the child?

1. Create a supportive, safe environment

children self esteem One of the best way to build children self esteem is to create an environment where children are encouraged to explore and express themselves. Where they are always safe and supported, and where they are able to try and discover new things and experiences without difficulties or danger.

Cultivate an environment where exploration, learning, and attempting new things are encouraged. At the same time, emphasize that making mistakes are totally fine as well.

Don't be too worried about kids making mistakes. These are children after all and they are meant to make mistakes while they are young. It is better that they learn now while rather than make mistakes when they are older which may have more serious consequences.

2. Goal setting

While it may not be apparent initially, the practice of setting goals, tracking the goals and achieving goals can help develop children self esteem. It teaches the child to plan and work towards the goal, learn lessons from that experience and ultimately realize his or her capabilities and ability to achieve a goal.

The child will be able to experience first hand how he achieved something of value and thus it will be an immense boost of confidence to the child.

It also teaches the child the important lesson of perseverance and putting in the effort in order to achieve what's desired.

3. A mindset of focusing on the positive

children self esteem As mentioned earlier, no one can prevent a child from experiencing failures or setbacks. It will happen. However what you can do is cultivate a positive mindset so that the child is less affected by setbacks.

Examples of doing this would be by always emphasizing the effort that was put in and not what the ultimate result is, and focusing and putting importance on the lessons learned from the experience rather than what was achieved or not.

This mindset has to be consistent regardless of whether the child achieves a goal or not, regardless of success or failure. The objective here is to cultivate the right principle in the child. It is not to make the child feel better or soften the blow.

4. Cultivating forgiveness -both for themselves, and to forgive others as well

The only way a person is going to be able overcome the pain and regret from failures or mistakes is by forgiving themselves. This is applies equally to adults and children and is the reason why cultivating an attitude of forgiveness is so important.

Mistakes and setbacks are inevitable. If a child doesn't know how to forgive himself or is unwilling to do so, that could have serious consequences. Growing up not learning the importance of forgiving oneself is actually more common than most people may realize, so make sure a child is taught to forgive himself.

5. De-emphasize the importance of peer evaluation

children self esteem Peer pressure and gaining acceptance is particularly important for children, and it can lead to unhealthy and low children self esteem. Generally for children, way too much importance is placed on peer evaluation and kids don't know better to ignore many of the unjustified feelings by their friends.

To overcome this, start de-emphasizing the importance of peer evaluation and acceptance. Some ways to do this is through; pointing out the strengths or natural talents that the child has reminding him or her of past achievements and most importantly teaching the child to accept that being different is normal and that being uniqueness is a something to be proud of and celebrated.

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